Talk of sex is a taboo in my continent or its regarded impolite in civilized society. Lust is regarded bad even in married couples not only in Hindu philosophy but in many other religions too. This is very hypocrite and double standard in itself. For many people, sex is desire, need or lust, to some sex is sin. Therefore, forget about taking it easily in courting couples of any age. There are huge number of people who suggest you to stay away from temptation and you should not marry for the sole reason of sex and sex is what is the reason behind the many broken family. May be religions as a whole are more preachy than understanding the root reason behind it. But what we can't deny is many people and many definition so the many condition.
There are people for whom sex is nothing more than a temptation one could resist. To some its a language of love and a must for continuation of life to go on. Whatever we say, no one can deny the truth, sex still do have full power to rule our life. The hard truth about sex is, it is a biggest human emotion of all.
It is believed that sex is good for mental stimulation. Research have revealed that, good sex unclogs the creativity within a man and it seems that it gives them an unseen wings to achieve unimaginable height in life. If we study closely in the life of many successful men this notion seem to be so right. Gandhi is well known for being the leader of 20th century due to his peaceful protest in the history of mankind, not only in India but he was a chronic sex addict, Picasso is top when it comes to painting world and he had many wives as well as many extramarital relationship also. Lets talk about Tiger Woods, the recent case of rise of fall of the biggest brand, due to his sexual behavior.
Fall of biggest brand : Personally for me the case study of Tiger Woods is very interesting, in so many ways. He was on top of his career when he was having affairs with many women but just when it was made public during late 2008, he became the fall of the biggest brand in modern history. After that his popularity saw the free fall like anything and he lost millions of dollar worth of brand endorsement due to his infidelity and besides his wife also divorced him in the midst of the crisis. It took him almost 5 years to regain his top position in Golf game.
Guilt : Recently, I was kind of numbed when I watched yet another crime shows. The story came in crime show but I am giving you only the psychological analysis here after or before that crime. For real story some Indian channel repeatedly airs it. You must have been reading in many of my articles that my personal preference is Crime patrol, Sony and Savdhan India in Lifes Ok.
This is a story of Mohit* who was convicted of raping a young British girl named Ana*, about seven years ago. He is from very well off family and he was working as a photographer for the girls when this happened. This was worked on fast track work so after the punishment he ran from the jail when he was serving his term. But the story is worth paying close attention after he ran from the jail. He did plastic surgery to change his looks, made false document to live life of a totally different person and was forced to stay out from his family and hometown and direct contract from them also due to this charge. Worse, he was so guilt ridden that he could not even have a normal relationship with any girl after that even with the girl in his office, who was interested in him and who took the advance to seduce him. He just could not open up about his past life nor he could free from himself what he did under the influence of alcohol. One mistake where he forced himself to the British girl and guilt of it could never leave him, even if he ran from jail, did plastic surgery and could change the whole document with the help from his powerful father. Nothing could ease his guilt, and he could not forget it to get over from the mistake he made in past.
When Greed collide with lust : Jiten Byas* was a rich stock broker and was living a double life which his family, friends and colleague did not know about. He made money fast and gave money fast and kept a woman outside his hometown also. But the new woman was seeking some status in his life not just ease in life. Financial ease which he provided the woman was exactly lacking in her life with her husband. She thought her rich lover should provide her something that will help her life before the enter rich man in her life. Now this woman was well off with her husband and two college going children and her son was sponsored for college study by this new man. after sometime she asked for a big chunk of land. The man was more canny that he looked. He threw a proposal; I will give you what you are asking but, send your daughter to me. This mother daughter discussed over this and the daughter replaced mother for his lustful act, but greed was the prime motive behind being exploited by this man.
As time passed this man did not transferred that particular piece of land worth 10 million to this mother daughter duo. Not surprisingly, one day this man was found dead out of his hometown. But, before his death his signs was taken on the land documents. These two women had used paper cutters only to kill this man on his wrist. This is the bad case of digging the greed of a women who had never seen money before they met this rich man.
Love lust : Charumeeta* was a married woman who lived in Kolkata who had intimate relationship with a young man. The young was not married, after some time the man fell in love with this woman knowing she has a husband and two children of hers. He thought good sex means love. But to this lady he was only the guy who provided her what had been lacking in her life. therefore she did not wanted to marry with him. When asked by this young man, “do you love me ?” she used to respond, “of course”, if asked “then why can't you leave him [ husband] then she used to say, “he is my husband.”
One day this young man who was in army shot this woman, a mother of two child, his husband and her mother-in-law because sex was not love for her.
Victim of Conspiracy : In May 2011 Dominique Strauss-Kahn was accused of attempted rape and sexual assault which he denied repeatedly. What is so interesting about this attempted rape and sexual assault is; that it all happened just before he was about to run for the top position in IMF. He was about to run for the 2012 French President and then all this buzz dominated the world news. On 23 August 2011, the judge formally dismissed all charges following a recommendation for dismissal filed by the District Attorney's office, which asserted that the complainant's untruthfulness made it impossible to credit her.
Any one can smell the game of conspiracy here than the actual assault from him. If people know your weakness, they will used it against you one day or another and it does not have to be the girl you are involved with to ruin your life, as It helps some to play a game within the loopholes using it against you and the people in power. At times this will be a huge issue for public and sometimes, By the time public know the real story its already too late for the victim.
There is no doubt that sex feels good and it sure is a mental stimulation in our life but only when there is no string attached with the sexual behaviour. Mere ejaculation is going to do no good to either party. Otherwise, it becomes a reason to fall from the grace regardless from which continent you belong to.
*TV shows or computer links don't use real names in Indian crimes story, so I will never know the real name and place.
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