When I heard this two words, coming together for the first time, my reaction to this was, I could not help, but chuckle up. I do remember asking, “what is utility sex ?”, to my boyfriend then. He replied, “...in this process people have sex to make only babies.” If you are really very curious about utility sex, and does it really exist ? I would like to suggest you to read, Sumnima, a novel by B. P. Koirala. This is one of the most talked about novel by the writer, who, in fact was well respected politician. But the incident, which happened in India, gave more food, to my brain for thinking about its end consequences.
Two men, Rajan and Harish became fast friend after their casual meeting. They felt comfortable sharing everything with each other. One day, Harish confinded his biggest problem with Rajan, he could not be a father. In a conservative society like India, infertility is mistakenly also taken as impotent, so the men with this prblem has to go through, the equally double burden, with a serious mental pressure, to deal with this issue; due to the narrow thinking, as well as lack of education in the society.
Very innocently, Ranan suggested, “....why not you choose a man, to whom you can trust, to be the father. I have seen many people doing this, as the couple keep quite in this matter so, no one will know about this.” At first, Harish did not like the idea, but when his eyes fell on Rajan, he changed his mind. He was better looking than him, younger than him and at the same time, he could trust him also. What more, he was the father of three children too, so he instantly offered him to do the job. This offer left Rajan dumbfounded.
Rajan, like Harish, was a small time worker, who lived on daily wage basis, if only; the work is available. Harish offered Rajan a stay over place, at his home at very cheap rate, even to their standard, which he could not say no, as the money was always tight. Harish talked about the arrangement, to his current wife. His first wife had left him, because he was very dispointed about not being able to be a father of a child; so he was abusive and always blaming her for not having children. Harish was very obsessed with having his own children, and she could not give him that. After the separation, his first wife became a mother of three.
Harish wife was not willing to be part of all this compromise, but could not muster a single word of disapproval, to his very dominant husband. Besides she was much younger than him too, at the same time, she to [secretly] wanted a child of her own.
Nobody knows, why some thing works, and why some thing does not, just like Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruz, when they were married, they were a childless couple. They were married for 10 years. They even have adopted two children and raised together. But when they separated and married after that, both of them became the proud parents of their own child.
Back to our own story, these four people were living in one room for all purpose, home of Harish. About six month back Rajans’ 10 years old boy had come to stay with him. When a whole year went by without any result, Rajan announced, he is gong back to his village, Harish was angry with him, and with himself and then with his wife too, for there being no child yet. Even after a years of painful experience of his life. He had let his wife share with one more guy, with only one hope, that one day he will be the father of his own child. But now Rajan was leaving home, to him what he needed seemed less important to him and he choose to walk out of all the mess.
Harish felt cheated, fooled and used for his flaw, he blamed Rajan and his wife also that they were intentionally prolonging the whole process... so that they could only enjoy sex and was not serious about making baby.
The day before Rajan was to leave for his village, Harish killed his friends 10 year old boy. and then ran. When police caught him after two months, all the truth about the killing came to light. He wanted to teach his friend, how painful it is, to cry for your own child.
Although, this [crime] story has very sad and tragic ending. Harish, gives us the very important message with his very own traditional and conservative mind set which lacks proper education; one crucial truth about sex. Sex is very intimate and private affair, which speaks a strong language of love. Otherwise use of it, always end up in downwards derail path. Its very hard to witness; anything that is called utility sex and remain sane at the same time, even though, the whole flaw, lies within.