Three Stories

 Story 1 : Once upon a time, there was a king, who saw a nest on top of his palace and got baffled, because he didn't see any ladder or any tall tree with its branches to reach the place. So, he wanted to know how come the bird made its next there. Not surprisingly, he sent one of his close aide with a big ladder, to see how come a bird can make its nest on top of the palace ? He was even more baffled to hear the news that the nest had little birds inside  it. He became curious and out of curiosity, he left the ladder nearby the nest, so that the birds can use it to reach in there home, just if in case. He started studying the nest for a couple of weeks and then one day the little bird flew from the cage; without using ladder. At this moment the king realised, that birds do not need ladders or any tall trees or its branches to reach to the top of a building or a palace.

As for a moral of a story it added at the end of a story that, sometimes even big people also make mistakes, due to absent mindedness.

What this story failed to teach, young child like me was, just because he was a king who was born with position, power and wealth; this also does not mean, he was born with common sense too. The story teach us to be the slave of those, who has power and money but not the common sense.

Story 2 : I am sure, all of you must have read the story of  Ekalavya, who was so very fascinated and mesmerized by the art of archery skill, that the Pandava brothers were getting training in the jungle by an expert of that era, who were called guru then.

The young boy Ekalavya, was not from the very affluent family background nor was he from royals like Pandava; instead he was untouchable of the society. Even then, he went to the guru and asked him to teach him the same as the Pandava brothers were getting. Knowing our culture and society, it should not surprise anyone that the young boy was denied for the training without a reason. However, it was so loud and clear, that he was untouchable, underprivileged, and nowhere near to the royals, to get the training, meant only for the royals.

Young Ekalavya did not take that ‘no’, and did not let that ‘no’ let him discouraged either, for what he loved and liked so much. It was like love at first sight  for him. Therefore, he went to the jungle, every day; to watch the training from the hides and later he self trained himself for the archery. His interest in archery was so much that, he gained a lot better knowledge by the teaching and self learning, than that of royal students.

One day, when the pandava brothers [ five brothers] were busy on training with their guru, got lost in the forest. Their dog, who had gone into the deep forest alone, saw Ekalavya practicing archery. After seeing him, the dog started barking like crazy, its relentless bark distracted the eager boy to focus on his practice, so much so that he thought of stopping the bark. He did stopped the dogs bark, with what he was good at, his arrows. The arrow did not pierced the dog, but stopped the barking. Later, after the training was over, the royal boys found the dog was missing, so all of them went to the deep forest, looking for the dog. The dog, by now was returning back towards the training center, but they were stunned at the scene and at the sometime, was also wonder struck, how come an arrow that was inside the mouth of a dog was not hurting it at all ! They tried to pull the arrow, but none of them could do so; not even the Arjun, who was  the best amongst the five.

Then, they headed towards to deep forest, to find out, who did it. There they saw  Ekalavya doing his practice. Then, they requested him to pull the arrow from his mouth, which he obliged. At this time, the guru asked him, where did he learned this skill ? he innocently replied that, he watched him teaching the royal boys and after some times, he self gained the knowledge. One thing is a must to mention here,  Ekalavya had built the statue of this same guru and he did his practice in front of that statue, every day imagining, how he would have guided him.

It was then, guru asked him time to pay for the training. The boy was willing to pay, but the sly and sleuth guru asked his thumb, no, not from his left hand but from the thumb of his right hand, the most important part of the body; that is needed for the archery skill. And Dorna just chopped off his thumb and paid that shrewd guru, for the training which he never gave. Ekalavya, I guess, did not even realized that this pay meant, end of his career or further gaining knowledge in this area. This also ensured the name and fame to the royal boys without the tough competition from the common man who was never trained by the best in the country.

This particular story had been repeatedly told to us, when we were young, to pay our due respect to teachers; and I just grew up hearing it like this.

What this story failed to teach us is, today, we know Arjun is the best archer in the history  of ancient eastern culture, because of the discrimination in caste system that our culture indulge in. This kind of discrimination is what, pulls the backwards of the society, for this or that reasons.  Pandava brothers also should be blamed equally, because they were present at the scene, when the Ekalavya chopped off his thumb, but none of them dared voicing against their guru, because deep down they realized it was good for their false and fake swelled up royal pride, who were less talented than the boy, who was not trained at all like them. Just because they were privileged and royals, does not mean they did not snatched the opportunities from the common man.

Next time, when some teacher tells you this story, remember he is not telling you to pay the respect to teacher for their hard work, but he is biased and taking part openly in discrimination game and spreading the deep rooted crab mentality, that have been gripping our society for centuries. Besides this moral, this story also fails to teach us one more very important lesson in our life, if we are interested in one area, the self gained knowledge; is far better than, any teacher in the world or for that matter even royal teacher can teach us.

Story 3 : But my favorite story is here, this is also a story, which I read when I was so young and have not been able to read it, in my adult life or in any story book since then.

Once upon a time, there was a poor man, who used to live in a small house. The house, he stayed was next to an eatery. He was so poor, that he could not afford a decent meal for one time, so forget about meat on his daily meal. But his perks was that, he was staying in front of the very well known eatery. It so happened that, when he used to sit down for his stale and pale food, just then the whiffs of scented curry and meat used to fill in his room and then with that; he used to eat his meal, thinking, he is the one who is enjoying the good meal from the eatery.

One day, as usual he sat down for his evening meal, and waited for the scent of chicken curry to fill his room, so that he can start his meal. But today, unlike other day the scent did not filled his room so, he just waited and waited and waited, but the good whiffs of aroma never filled his room. Its been so long that, he had been eating his meal, with the scent, he was so used to of  having his meal with the rich scent only, coming from the eatery, not without it. Not surprisingly, he just could not eat his meal, without the aroma of good curry filling his room and his nose and all his senses.He slept that day, without having his meal.

The next day, he went to the eatery and talked with the owner. The owner, listened him patiently, and after hearing the full story, he told him that, he has to pay the price for the meal, as of the market value for which he has been eating for years. This surprised and  angered the poor man, and at the same time worried him too. He did not know, what to do next. The discussion got bigger and bigger and the crowd got divided into two. Some agreed with eatery owner, and some felt sorry for the poor man. The simple conversation got so big that, they landed in a court and to the horror of the poor man; the judge also ruled, in favor of eatery owner.

To pay the dues and all the old dues, the poor man, really have to do all kinds of hard work on his extra time to manage the money to the eatery owner. On the judgement day, the time of the pay, the eatery owner was so excited and happy to get the huge money. So needless to mention, he was wearing the biggest smile, ever in his life that went ears to ears. It was not only that, he was going to make extra money, but it was coming from purely his insane sounding idea too.

The poor man was really poor and because he was a poor man, so all of his pay money was in small change, which was kept in a small potalee [ a bag like stuff made by cloth used to keep the small cash], which made a lots of sweet sound of money, when shaken. The judge took the potalee from the poor man, containing all the old dues and shook it really well, in front of the eatery owner, then told him; this is your pay. It surprised the eatery owner but the judge clarified it saying, “only the sound of the money, in return of the scent, which the poor man was enjoying, not the actual food. So, why expect the real money for unreal product, which was never sold to him ?”

Now, its the poor man’s turn to be happy and smile from ears-to-ears. It relieved him so much after learning that, he do not have to pay for the thing, which he never ever bought.  

At this time, I do not remember what moral this story taught me then, but it came with the best teaching of all story I mentioned above, a good lesson and a good moral value to learn.

There is law and order when common man are involved and it restores the inequality in our society. I wish this judge was there to give the justice to Ekalavya and his common sense to that story teller of our first story, who do not have guts to tell us that royals only have status and positions, but they are not gifted with talent, common sense and conscience.

If only we have more people with a common sense to teach us; when we were growing up.

Why Nepali TV airs political news base programme only ?

Recently, I have been making it kind of my duty to keep eye on what kind of program that gets aired in our channels. I should have known this well than others, why Nepali channels are not airing any programs that shape our society.

Most of the talk show on all channels mainly focus on politics, politicians and political condition of our country. As if, other than that, there is nothing happening in this country. And it actually should not surprise me then, frustrating condition of the politics and political situation in this country; is what spoiling the overall mood of the general mass of this country. More than that, most of the time people sound so defeated and see no better future here in this country. The question is; why people are so frustrated at this extent ? Why state is not taking any steps, to help the people of this country ? Who should and who can change this situation ? Who is responsible, when we have only news based programmes and no other drama, musical programs or talent shows that helps to rise and flourish the creative industry. Even more, why there is no such program that helps to shape the society to reform our it for better future ? which ultimately uplift the socio economic condition of the society also. Is preaching by religious leaders, in every morning on most of the channels is only solution for this ?

The major TV channels like NTV, which is state owned KTV  and Image channels and News 24 and other news channels which is privately owned; also airs only news that run more than 12 times a day. Keep in mind, none of the countries channels run for 24 hours. Other programs which is drama based, do not have enough viewers or they watch all the foreign channels for Gods sake ! Is my country is the only one who is facing this problem ? Do not Indian channel has to face cut throat competitions with the loads of channels that is in sky for better program, which pulls more viewers to its particular program ?

You might want to give me the name of some of the programs which has been on air since long. But Tito Satya, Jire Khursani and Gharbeti Baa has been entertaining the mass with cheap satire on the social or political situation of the society but do not reform the society. Instead these very kind of program may have taught the public to talk back to their parents with less respect as the child in Toto Satya used to talk back with so blunt way showing no respect at all to his parents until couple of years ago. Mundre[ Jeetu] is also not very famous for showing respect to his parents or his relatives. Its different they think, its comedy or fun to do so. Popular TV program like this have so much power to change the mass thinking alike. lets even not talk about the other chepa satire drama on NTV or even other channels.

TV plays a huge role to shape the mind of people, to change their social behaviour yet its really been long that good program do not get aired on our Television channels, why ?  I once worked in a media house to market and sale the national television’s programs to corporate houses and advertising agencies, so I know some inside story here.

Its not that our country lack so the talent or has the shortage of skilled actors, or director producers or the writers. Its, multinational company like Unilever and Dabar who want to pay their rate for the program not the rate that cost to make the programs and other national corporate houses to be blamed for this ? What do they care about the better society of our country ? And why they even care, when we are not caring for it ?

Its so happened, at a time for a long time, when Maobadi was determined to push the country back to the stone age and destroying everything across the country to pull the attention from national and international societies in the name of peoples war. They were also extorting corporate houses, to feed their so called soldiers. People were so focused only on news and corporate houses started pouring their money mainly on news as corporate houses only cares to sell their goods to the viewers, they do not care much about the society  or better society; for better tomorrow.

 Regardless of country ‘s political or economic condition all they want to do is to sell their products, now, but never prepare our public to buy new products which is made in Nepal, expensive and  is of export quality. All audience are potential buyers of their products now but there is no  better society tomorrow in corporate houses angel. Just sell what sells here and go to other placed to sell what they will buy. therefore its a country or its government who really  has to take the stern steps to make our society.

Creative industry needs to prosper in any country; as it creates money and becomes the  reason to flow money in the market. For example : I have been watching Australian Master Chef for some time now.  It seems that this show alone helped Australians to spend more money on food and prosper food industries. But at the same time its also helping to prosper the cookbooks, cookbook writers, demand of good chefs in the restaurants, sell of Kitchen wares, creating good food critics for more magazines or papers, and this show also giving the good chefs to many lifestyle channels. It seems that the show alone, has been helping the country to role millions of dollar in the market, in so many ways.

If any business helps to flow the money in the market, the economic keeps rolling in the particular country and situation gets better. Its a win win situation for the creative industry as well as for a country.

I have seen our creative industry, movies, television programs, writers with vision has been under shadowed due to the over priority given to politics and politicians. Politics takes money from businessmen, government and also from public. Politics do not help roll money in the market, other than the blocking it to roll, unlike other business. In show business it somewhat creates a notion that, money is a concept not a real thing and so that it fuels the idea that money can be created. But for that people really have to be very creative. and have to have a vision to shape our society to get it better.

Manufacturing industry of our country has to invest money in good program instead of bargaining for dirt cheap rate all the time and killing this money making industry. Corporate houses, Advertising agencies and brand managers  has to stop comparing our local programs to international class programs. In other country corporate houses picks up the huge production bills, that will help them to pay well to the star cast, so that they can make a good program. Such quality programs can not be made with mere investment of under 50,000/- budget per week to compare with Indian or international quality programs. I am sure, you must have heard the term, if you throw peanuts, you can only attract monkeys. That's why even my country sits in-between the two emerging economic giants on earth which of course is, China and India; who have been spending hell on travelling budget, yet we have not been able to gain it, not even 5% of their good spending habit.

If we do not focus on making good program on our channels, it will be even more sad condition for our country, for its economic and socio-economic condition in the years to come. There should be less news, that focus only on politics and politicians, for our society to prosper. Corporate houses has to be more serious and realistic to invest for long term programs, instead of short term investment to better our society. Forget multinational companies here in this matter; as they least care for the betterment of our society because if they see no one is buying their product, they will move on to other place, where they will find their clients. But you and I have to  live in this society, for good or bad.

12,000/- per minute a programs is the main reason of deteriorating condition of our creative industries on Television. I have not heard one corporate house here who says make it and I will buy it. Corporate houses, Advertising agencies and brand managers are; all the slave of TRP ratings. They are not the visionary who foresees the better tomorrow. Should this surprise me now, why we are not making any good programs yet ? But then why the channel bosses are not having any vision for our society; except that warms their pockets ?

• Indian movie industry is estimated to have been a billion dollar industry.
• A good quality program by Ekta Kapoor cost 15 corod a year to make in India and here we spend only under 50,000 per week.
• 100 crore movie club is now new buzz in the indian movie industry which create money in matter months and manufacturing industries have to work all year long to make that much money.
• It is said that Tare Jamin par [ stars on earth ] made more than 200 crore in the box office.
• Such movie tell us the fact that money can be created and with a brilliant idea it can be created
  
  

Criminals are created

It may be that I am too concern about the things that is happening around me. It does not have to be always in my vicinity, just in bigger society and trying to understand everything that goes in this world. For that very reason I have been watching Crime Patrol for more than a year and now I am addicted of this program. this is one good program which teach us without being too preachy. When I am trying to understand, what is sin ? and who decides or tell us what makes an act a sinful act ? I thought killing people is one of the biggest sin, but when I came to learn the real reason behind the actual murder; its not so easy to judge this act, which terminates the live of a human being; is also not one of the biggest sin. Of course it always has two sides of a story to tell but not always.

In this reality TV program, some hindu priest claims that being lower caste is non religious [adharma], going to temple by ‘untouchables’ is equal to sin. Really ? What kind of religious belief is that but here I am not going to talk about the what is sin or something that, makes some at a religious or not.  what force a person to commit crime ? are they born bad, raise in bad environment ? were illiterate ? who commit crime ? what is the reason behind the crime that keep happening in our society that is also around the worlds.

You are too young to fall in love : Priya Rajput was normal teenagers like any other girl and was still studying in school. Just one slight difference, she was in love; head over heels with a boy who lived in same village. The old generations of that village were against this kind of ‘behaviour’ in their village and that small natural act of hers, was regarded as bad act and childish behaviour. She was beaten, slapped and then, when still she refused to obey her parents; she was sent to stay in one of her uncles home, hoping, out of sight and out of mind case will apply in her life.  The teenage girl who fell in love with a boy in her village was barred to stay connected  with him and kept in one of her uncles home, killed her aunt when no one was in the house and then went to meet her boyfriend. later police arrested her and sent her to juvenile home, as she was just sixteen when she committed the murder.

If only, the family members would have understood the falling in love is natural than losing a family member well ahead of her time. This could have been avoided. If a society treats a normal behaviour as an abnormal act then this things are bound to happen in due course of time.

You are my wife But : It was Amina’s idea and her close friend, who killed the wife of her husband for denying her status, position and child, she thought, she too should have as a wife. She was not aware of the man’s first marriage, when she was married to a man to whom she called Khan Sab. He kept both of wives in dark about his second marriage and from first wife he had  two children too. The wives first met each other when he was hospitalised one day and Amina’s friend saw him there. The man thought, he was keeping both of his wives happy but the reality was so chilling and when he came to know about it he just could not believe. This man treated his wives as if they have no say in their life and he also could not leave one of them but the 2nd wife who wanted all the things that a married woman desires was denied of.

If only he could have treated them with so much respect, he would not have lived to see one of his wife dead and another going to jail.

You are poor and young : Puja a seventeen year old slum dweller, in a mumbai who used to work in a ladies trailer was only breadwinner in her family, when her father left for delhi with his son. At that tender age, she had to take care of her sick and ailing mother and she also had a sister who was studying in ninth grade dreaming to become a doctor. with her meagre it was not easy for her to support  three member of the family so she needed to make Rasan Card, that card would have allowed her to get the groceries at subsidised rate in her area’s grocery store. She needed to make one, but there was problem to get that card fixed, with her old rasan card, which included her fathers name too. In her quest to fix the rasan card, she landed in the office of a local political party leaders office, who could have helped her to make that card.

But the situation turn out bit ugly way. He started abusing her for his lust and she just meekly submitted herself in a hope that, one day this middle aged man will help her to get the new rasan card. Six months pass by but this Mangesh Kadam, a rising political leader was not making her any rasan card and she needed one desperately. Every time he called, she went to see him, and she just did whatever, he wanted her to do. But, one day when Mangesh Kadam wanted Puja to being her fourteen year old sister for his lust. It just pulled the wire off from her brain, and proved to be the last nail on the coffin. She just could not focus on her work.

Needless to tell, she shared the whole incident to her brother like employers. This segment of class think that, even if they go to police to complain about such case;  police won't help them. So they themself made a plan and one day when Mangesh Kadam wanted to  see the girl, Puja took her to see him, but along with her, she went to see him, with her brothers like two employer too.

The two men went to see the political leader with the alcohol, just before Puja entered in his office on that Sunday. When he shamelessly took Gita in his room and told Puja to stay out of his office; she opened the outside door and then let the two men enter the office again and then they killed Mangesh by slitting his throat.

A powerful leader was killed by the poorest and the exploited group of the society. He was killed for his lust and abuse of power. He had the chance to avoid his death.

All the above cases tells us, very clearly that criminals are created by our society and in many cased from the family members and their stern believe in certain issued they do not or can not bend over. They are not born bad, or raised bad but They are treated so poorly, which in due course of time exploded to the kind of situation, nobody would like to to take  its responsibility. If only we try to understand it, long  before it happens then our society will better place to live.

He needs your help

Plain Jane,  is a reality TV program on TLC. Being a hardcore realistic person, I seem to be  sticking with reality base programs only on TV, of course, with few exception. This programs grooms girls above twenty to under thirty, who have been in relationship for some time but they could never muster it to those with whom they were in relation. they could never take it to another level even though some of them were best friends since college.

Its not that these girls are not smart, educated and beautiful but they just lack that confidence to admit it to the man of their life. May be, its presumed that this is the work of a man. Louise Roe, the program host ask only 48 hours with these girls and after a first meed, she just picks up her phone to dial the guy to fix a blind date in just 48 hours.

She then starts working with girls starting with their worst fear and conquering it  by any means possible. Some did skydiving, some did pulled the bill of a 1000 dollar from the 100 snail filled in a vase and some picking up the bill from the shark aquarium and some boxing their fear out. But more than that the girls has to gain the confidence to face the guy, who was in her life for long time, she liked him loves him yet have nt confidence to admit it in front of him. Fearing the rejection and some never wanted to lost the best friends if she shares her inner feeling with him. you know how girls are when it comes to cockroaches and the slippery snails

The background of the story is of course, based in America and thats why its makes it so interesting to watch it as its regarded the very advanced country to put their feelings it words.

Once they face the fear, then they have to go through the dress up sense and then some makes up tips to get the attention of the guy.

It was shocking to find out at the end of the show that almost every guys felt the same way as the girls but was afraid of rejection, so they never propose the girl of her life.

A study reveals that ninety percent men are afraid of rejection, so they never propose. ninety percent huh ! It does not surprise me then, there is this notion that tells, women are smarter; when it comes to emotional intelligence and they have this knack of reading feelings about all the emotions. She may be slow to get so many other things, that is under the sun; but she is the mother of all emotions, because she is the one who invented most of it.

A recent survey done and complete follow up in every six month of their marriage from the beginning for about fours years by the psychiatrist of University of California reveals that, if she has a doubt about her marriage, which may not work, then she should listen to her instinct; because the divorce is sure on the way; compared to men who has the same doubt. It also mean that she can hold it, I mean a home or a family, if she wants to and things will fall apart, if she is distracted to keep it together.

So next time when you know you like the guy and your instinct tells you that he too likes you then you know what to do.  Because behind that cool and macho man there lies the very insecure man who lack the self confidence especially when smart, beautiful and intelligent girl like you is around him to make him feel more nervous. So, take the matter in your hand. The chances of being rejection is just ten percent, and thats what makes it so interesting.

Here at this moment, I remember this line from a movie, my big fat greek wedding, “men are head and women are neck, without neck head can not nod”.

Who won ?

 As a growing up teenager, I always wanted to be a psychologist and was thinking of taking this subject in my college also. But this plan came to an abrupt halt, when I found out that the only college here in Nepal offers this course, and which needed me to wear dhoti as a college dress. That information instantly forced me to change my subject in college.

My fascination with this subject had grown, because I grew up in a big mass, as I grew up in Bal Mandir. The huge mass around me never left me later in my life also. My first job, well almost, was in a five star hotel. When I joined The Everest Hotel  in 1996, there were more than 700 people. In Casino, which had leased one of the biggest conference hall of the hotel then, had hired almost the same number of staff as of hotel.

Having grown up in a huge crowd and getting chance to work in even bigger number of people, has an impact in my mind. I read people. No, not the words coming out from their mouth, I mean I read body language more than language used by them.

It sure covers every details of gesture and posture including the color of dress, makeup and scent used by the person. Because the spoken words alone, make no complete sense; unless its matched with body language.

It may be too much for some people, but maybe my subconscious mind is trained that way as I grew up in big mass. Therefore, I scan it all in three seconds to get my information. Many times said words, do not have to do anything with what the body language is saying. Some are expert in hiding it, but not all are trained to do so wisely.

My time in Bal Mandir have thrown me in the mass of raw and crude language, both in  terms of language and body language, but my time in hotel needed me to deal with more sophisticated and educated people, from good family background. They knew how to hide or tackle the emotions when needed.

So, when I posted the picture of Kali and Mahadev on my facebook with a joke, “hey kali, you are you wearing your underwear”, invited loads of comments around the world from Nepali community. Some of my loyal and intellect reader did not like this post. However, this is the only post, which has been liked and shared by most people. This is also the only post which defied the normal rule of getting hit within 24 hours, which surprised me.

Of course, some of them hailed me, for my audacity to joke on [our] God/Goddess. But some also came forward to support me, saying that we should be more tolerant on this kind of joke, as long as we are not mocking our god/goddess or religion.  

Honestly speaking, I thought; this post could have seen me dragged to the police station.

When I responded some of the comments hinting, its a joke that make full sense reading by what is on the picture. This in fact, is the good example of how men treat women under any circumstances and even when ‘he’ is under her feet, this raged some of my male readers.

On this picture, Mahadev is lying on his back and Kali is stepping on him. But, that is not all I see here. Watch carefully, when somebody does this kind of audacious act, it should give a sense of pride. Her pulled tongue out from her mouth, falls on body language. This is the language of embarrassment not the sense of pride. Then, why her long tongue is out from her mouth ? Where is that sense of pride and confidence gone ?

Her next to impossible way pulled tongue out from her mouth, keeps nagging me everytime I see this picture. I can't help but wonder, is this the artist’s interpretation; about seeing the situation ? Why she has been depicted that way in the picture ? Why she is wearing such accessories and holding high blood stained weapon ? When she is so gutsy, to nab a person like Mahadev for his provocative behaviour, does she has to wear garland made by human skull ? Was she accessorised intentionally to diminish the true feel on her face for her achievement ? Her short skirt tells me that, she could not have chosen the kind of accessories, she is wearing.

Here, no one can disagree with me, when I say, her long tongue out, sure is not the language of anger or sense of pride.  

When she can bring down Mahadev on the floor and stand on top of him, then why the confidence and the sense of pride can not be seen the picture ? Why that embarrassed expression ? This is something very unusual language to use for someone, who is so bold like Kali, who in Hindu religion is worshiped as the ‘lady with power’.

Then again the perplexing question is, why she let her tongue out ?

Is this the artist, who could have twisted the language, or it is actually Mahadev; who had  guts to say that joke, that too, from under her feet, which forced her to give that reaction. In fact, the picture seem to be saying, “you pervert, I am wearing the one, that is of my skin color and you remain like that until you see the difference.”

What really hammers my brain in all this is, Hindu religion worships both equally and why I am seeing only a battle of sex, here in this picture ?

However, what can not be ignored is, what women need to know seeing this picture is, this really tells a lot about, not just the power of women, but it clearly speaks highly of men’s mentality. How he can make you feel, even if; he is under your feet, therefore that long tongue out from her mouth. So, its upto you to get the message. What is said and what is not said yet, you better know your true strength and feel it and act accordingly.

Do you really have to be psychologist to read the body language ?

Why our media persons lack ethics and vision ?

More I surf news to read or watch more I get frustrated. It may be because first, I  am not a news hungry person; second, I can survive without news. But more than that I have to protect myself from all the negative thinking, defeating mentality and hopelessness  which I get after watching news, that comes from all over. It seems that I am not much against the news. When I say news, I must and tend to avoid all political and negative news regardless of its nature. I do avoid both national and international news, but more than that I avoid reading or watching our local political news. Please, don't get me wrong, when I say I hate political news, this does not necessary mean I hate politicians, its only that I just could not show an inch of respect to our media persons, journalists or think tanks for what kind of news and views they are giving on any channels or papers.

I am also not saying that politicians are not bad by bone and corrupt and doing everything right but, all our political journalists have been unable to empower our public in true sense to take action against them ? If our politicians have failed to deliver result then the media persons also have not been able to do any better job than them, in terms of enforcing our state to take strong action against them. My personal opinion is, if done correctly the power of media is ten times stronger than the combined force of politicians. Politicians are there [ with some exception] to indulge in power play games and kill time rather than to serve nation and public. Okay get this, but, why journalists are only giving negative news only, about politics and politicians ? Are you telling me we don't have any exception in our country or you better not talk about someone unbelievably good in the pile of rottens ? Because, I strongly  believe that a moon is more than sufficient to see in the night rather than millions of stars. You sure is not telling me, you are just not aware of this fact ?

Is journalism is all about busting scam and making money selling negative news, frustrations, depression and hopelessness ?  In recent days, if there has been anything that that has been kept nagging me most for months, then this is the question. Just to find answer, I switch to other international channels, mostly CNN and BBC. It took me time to adjust with my believe not to watch news channels, but if I avoid political news I just got hooked to watching CNN and kind of liked it also. They don't sound sarcastic like our journalist, when they ask questions and hears about possibilities. I am huge fan of, most of the journalist, well not the political journalists, but, still I see no reason, to judge them and show any less respect. CNN and BBC seem to be giving me news other than politics or corrupt politicians. They cover everything that happens in the world and their angle is so big and  convincing than our journalists, who are not inching any further, than politics or the things that happened here but coverage is just negative only. Not surprisingly, news plays a huge role in terms of changing perception in the public mind for good and for bad. Public, not just locally but globally. They are the ones, who gave me clarity and understanding that news means much more than political news and they have wide range of news to keep me busy even if I say, “I don't need to see news to survive.” They still have plenty of news to give me and expand my horizon and vision as well; whereas, our country has been staggering for so long and then all the media person are indulging in blame game saying its all because of bad politic and corrupt politicians.  “Nothing is going to chance in this country if our political situation will not change.”

This is what annoys me most when I hear this above  line from all walk of people in my life. It is purely because the journalist, media person  and think tanks has been saying so, for so long. They only seem to be focusing on short term vision, rather than long term vision and that to commercial aspect of running publication house I mean national dailes. Of course, it has to be there, but without giving anything back to society and country ? this is really scarry. Therefore, I am so vocal on this subject on my social network, knowing I have plenty of journalists, media person  in my circle from national dailies to small papers to TV channels and FM channels and think tanks who can influence society from various aspects on their own.

If I go by the facebook status of the general mass, majority of them never get tired of cursing in foul language and blaming politicians, system also for the worst condition of this country, on top of that adding, ‘the situation is never ever going to change’. Not surprisingly, people are very hopeless, frustrated, defeated and see no future in this country. I can't blame public for holding that kind of attitudes, towards our system and politicians. They are just tuning into the songs sang by journalists, media persons and think tanks for ages, and this is what exactly frustrates me. This section of the so called intellectuals are to be blamed for injecting negativity, defeated mentality, hopelessness and no sign of improvement here in all this in the future too saying, ‘nothing good will ever happen in this country’. Why these section of the society is wasting time only on politics and not inching towards the other areas of society that help grow it and as a whole nation too ?

Agreed, politics sure has so much negativity within its system, okay fine bureaucrats also are to be blamed for the staggering growth as a whole, of our society, but  my question to all this intellectuals is; is politics is everything to help grow a society or a county ? well I do not want to argue on this, with those who strongly believe on this notion.

I just would like to copy a paragraph from The God Particle by Bibhushan Shakya which appeared on THT on July 15, 2012. “...when Time magazine produced a list of most influential people of the 20th century, Mahatma Gandhi, who led India to independence and inspired non-violence throughout the world and Franklin Roosevelt, one of the greatest US presidents who led the country during the great depression, were only the runner ups on the list and the individual honored was the person of the century was a man of theoretical physics - Albert Einstein.”

If I go by the above thought, it clearly agrees with my strong believe,that politics alone is not the supreme reason to help grow a society or a nation and whole world. Then, why my country’s journalists, media perosns and think tanks are moving other directions to help this country's people ? When they are going to realise this ?

When are you going to stop injecting negativity, frustration and depression and hopeless in the mind of public ?

Its  not the politics that is at faults; the journalist, media persons and think tanks must pause and look into themselves for that flaw which lies within.

 
In the meanwhile, I would like to extend my great thankfulness to Bijay Kumar for admitting on national television channel, “that talking politics and with politicians is purely waste of time and saying I should have given that time to other areas I could have seen really good change.” Its been couple of month, since then he had been only inviting social workers on his show. Oh, yes last week there was Gagan Thapa on his show, But, its okay, he is the only young and good politicians of my country.