As a growing up teenager, I always wanted to be a psychologist and was thinking of taking this subject in my college also. But this plan came to an abrupt halt, when I found out that the only college here in Nepal offers this course, and which needed me to wear dhoti as a college dress. That information instantly forced me to change my subject in college.
My fascination with this subject had grown, because I grew up in a big mass, as I grew up in Bal Mandir. The huge mass around me never left me later in my life also. My first job, well almost, was in a five star hotel. When I joined The Everest Hotel in 1996, there were more than 700 people. In Casino, which had leased one of the biggest conference hall of the hotel then, had hired almost the same number of staff as of hotel.
Having grown up in a huge crowd and getting chance to work in even bigger number of people, has an impact in my mind. I read people. No, not the words coming out from their mouth, I mean I read body language more than language used by them.
It sure covers every details of gesture and posture including the color of dress, makeup and scent used by the person. Because the spoken words alone, make no complete sense; unless its matched with body language.
It may be too much for some people, but maybe my subconscious mind is trained that way as I grew up in big mass. Therefore, I scan it all in three seconds to get my information. Many times said words, do not have to do anything with what the body language is saying. Some are expert in hiding it, but not all are trained to do so wisely.
My time in Bal Mandir have thrown me in the mass of raw and crude language, both in terms of language and body language, but my time in hotel needed me to deal with more sophisticated and educated people, from good family background. They knew how to hide or tackle the emotions when needed.
So, when I posted the picture of Kali and Mahadev on my facebook with a joke, “hey kali, you are you wearing your underwear”, invited loads of comments around the world from Nepali community. Some of my loyal and intellect reader did not like this post. However, this is the only post, which has been liked and shared by most people. This is also the only post which defied the normal rule of getting hit within 24 hours, which surprised me.
Of course, some of them hailed me, for my audacity to joke on [our] God/Goddess. But some also came forward to support me, saying that we should be more tolerant on this kind of joke, as long as we are not mocking our god/goddess or religion.
Honestly speaking, I thought; this post could have seen me dragged to the police station.
When I responded some of the comments hinting, its a joke that make full sense reading by what is on the picture. This in fact, is the good example of how men treat women under any circumstances and even when ‘he’ is under her feet, this raged some of my male readers.
On this picture, Mahadev is lying on his back and Kali is stepping on him. But, that is not all I see here. Watch carefully, when somebody does this kind of audacious act, it should give a sense of pride. Her pulled tongue out from her mouth, falls on body language. This is the language of embarrassment not the sense of pride. Then, why her long tongue is out from her mouth ? Where is that sense of pride and confidence gone ?
Her next to impossible way pulled tongue out from her mouth, keeps nagging me everytime I see this picture. I can't help but wonder, is this the artist’s interpretation; about seeing the situation ? Why she has been depicted that way in the picture ? Why she is wearing such accessories and holding high blood stained weapon ? When she is so gutsy, to nab a person like Mahadev for his provocative behaviour, does she has to wear garland made by human skull ? Was she accessorised intentionally to diminish the true feel on her face for her achievement ? Her short skirt tells me that, she could not have chosen the kind of accessories, she is wearing.
Here, no one can disagree with me, when I say, her long tongue out, sure is not the language of anger or sense of pride.
When she can bring down Mahadev on the floor and stand on top of him, then why the confidence and the sense of pride can not be seen the picture ? Why that embarrassed expression ? This is something very unusual language to use for someone, who is so bold like Kali, who in Hindu religion is worshiped as the ‘lady with power’.
Then again the perplexing question is, why she let her tongue out ?
Is this the artist, who could have twisted the language, or it is actually Mahadev; who had guts to say that joke, that too, from under her feet, which forced her to give that reaction. In fact, the picture seem to be saying, “you pervert, I am wearing the one, that is of my skin color and you remain like that until you see the difference.”
What really hammers my brain in all this is, Hindu religion worships both equally and why I am seeing only a battle of sex, here in this picture ?
However, what can not be ignored is, what women need to know seeing this picture is, this really tells a lot about, not just the power of women, but it clearly speaks highly of men’s mentality. How he can make you feel, even if; he is under your feet, therefore that long tongue out from her mouth. So, its upto you to get the message. What is said and what is not said yet, you better know your true strength and feel it and act accordingly.
Do you really have to be psychologist to read the body language ?