Impact of Spoken Words

Having been grown up myself in Bal Mandir [ Children Home], here in Nepal and hearing all the negative comments from the caretakers in our childhood for years, which impacted our young subconscious mind profusely and observing its lasting impact in my grown up life; as well as on many of my well educated inmates from there, who could not make it big in their respective field, despite all the education they acquired. I can bet, all my money, that they are not even aware, why its so. But this observation has a lot to teach me the impact of  spoken words, that remains in subconscious mind forever,  which affects us in good or bad way in long run; longer than we can imagine.  

When I was there no one told me, you can make it, you can do it, you will do it, because you have the potential to make it big. Instead we had to hear, all the time dream and you ? with disgusting look on their face or disbelieve, if only the dreams were horses, even the beggars would ride them or the sweets for beggars ? were the lines, that was used more often. Good for me, I can't even remember all of it but what is left are the ones, no one should be hearing  in their life; because those words were the true curse, not the condition.

Mentioning of bible, Dr. Paul Yonggi Cho, writes in his book, the fourth dimension, “if you keep on saying that you are poor, then all of your system conditions itself to attract poverty and you will feel at home in poverty; you would rather be poor. But if you keep on saying that you are able, that your can achieve success, then all of your bodies would be bridled to success.”

People who believe that supportive family do shape our life, are right to some extent, if not entirely. Because, those supportive words and inspiration is something that will go and rest in our subconscious mind forever. It is said that, our conscious mind is the slave of our subconscious mind.

It is believed that the person who grew up like me [in orphanage], do not make it big in life or chances are slim that, we do live our life decently. I do remember reading this survey by a professor of sociology, from John Hopkins University who had done a survey of a slum in Baltimore. They studied about 200 youth there thoroughly about their conditions. Those students concluded in their report, that these youth from slum, will end up their life in prison, when they grow up.

After twenty five years later, the same professor sent another groups of student to follow up on his earlier study to the same slum in Baltimore. They succeed tracking down 160 of the 200 people. But to their surprise, they had turned into civilized men and were doing fine in their life. They wanted to know, why ? The students came to know that the 100 of youth had   gone to a same high school, where a teacher named Sheila O'Rourke was found in a nursing home in Memphis, who had taught this slum youth, which changed their life upside down proving wrong the prediction made by earlier group of students from the John Hopkins University.

This second group of students, went on extra miles to find the teacher; as they wanted to know what was her plan or how she did the impossible. Her response was very simple, I treated all my students during my time. I treated them with love and respect and there was no plan as you are thinking.  She was a religious person and was doing as she was influenced by Jesus and his teachings.

Well, the above study has a lot to teach us, about the mind set. The answer is yes, love and respect to youth and child has a lot to do to shape a life of a person and its not necessary that it has to start at home at very early age as believed by many psychologist that has the capacity to store things that is heard in our subconscious mind, but human brain is more powerful and its absorption power is huge, therefore it may happen at any age and any time those words can change a looser to an achiever.

This is why, I need to dig more and know everything about it. Is this, what we believe or there is some truth to it also ?

A most powerful religious leader [Christian] and international speaker Dr. Paul Yonggi Cho writes in his book, The Fourth Dimension “the spoken words has power, and when you release that word, it is the word, and not you, who performs miracles.”

How much it will effect the thought of a person will make more sense by this example : Hem was a young man, skilled in electrical fitting.  He was so good that he could finish a house wiring in just a couple of hour. One day a man, who was very well known and respectable in his area told him that, “you are going to be affected  by the disease of tuberculosis, because your parents also died of it.”  After hearing the news, the words kept echoing in his head and it started getting on his health in really bad way. he lost the taste of food and had no urge to do the work. which caused rise in temperature during night and when he surfed more books to know about the tuberculosis, he thought, he has the symptoms of it. in the next three months his health started deteriorated at unbelievable speed due to excessive worry on the news by the respectable old man, whom Hem believed blindly.

Finally, the day came and he had to go to see the doctor. when finally doctor took an X-ray, said, “you see your lungs are perfect and you take this medicine, you will be alright in a week.” To clear the air further from his mind the doctor also showed him the comparison of X-rays, with those who had the disease, then in a few days Hem regained his original health with spirit. One man’s words made him sick with worry and another man’s words of confirmation released him from his illness, which he had harbored.

Before running for the president of America, Abraham Lincoln had lost the election twice for senator’s seat; yet in third time he struck back with a bang and that was the turning point of his long run to the presidential position, and he went on to became one of the most famous president of America.

What makes them to keep fighting back ? what is the power behind the resilience ?

When Abraham Lincoln was a small boy, he saw a white colored house on his way back home. He asked his father about the house his father replied, it's the white house, where our president works and lives. Then he asked whether he could also work in that white house as a president ? His father replied, “of course, my son you can”. rest we all know the history.

During the late seventies, Korean neurosurgeons have found that, the speech center in the brain, rules over all the nerves. One of my all time favorite line from the book, Rich Dad Poor Dad is one dad said, as he believed, “the reason I am not rich is because I have you kids” and the other dad said, “the reason I must be rich is because I have you kids” Robert Kiyosaki admits in this book that it was the luxury to observe the power and effects of a different thoughts shaping the life as they believed. Because as they believed; their life ended exactly the same way, as they predicted or acted; and for this very reason this book is very readable and believable in every bit of the line this book talks about.

Another of my favorite quote from Rich Dad Poor Dad. Rich dad always believed that “I can't afford” sends mind in sleep mode, how can I afford gives a reason to exercise our brain. More we exercise more powerful our our brain will be.

Nobody can measure the power of thought, yet it is one of the most powerful force, that shapes our life. We need to know how to choose wisely our thought as its going to shape our whole life.

There is one proverb in Japanese, the power of sword, power of jewel and power of mirror. Mirror tells you, never underestimate three things in life, I, me and myself. If you look into the mirror you see yourself and then you will know the true value  of you. This only tells you to believe in you; yourself more important than any other person. Like that advertisement says, ‘I believe in me.’ Speak it loud and do it as much as you can do it, and see the difference it will make in your life.

How the scientist see it ? another line from the book the fourth dimension, a neurosurgeon said, “if someone keeps on saying, I am going to become weak, then right away all the nerves receives that message, and in reaction all the nervous system becomes weak as they have got the message from our central communication that we would become weak. they then in natural sequence adjust their physical attitudes to weaken.”

If we want a success in our life, we must change our negative language to positive one. The big question is where can we learn this language ?

To some its a religious book, as the Dr. Paul Yonggi Cho believes, and to some they find it at home in form of a mother or a wife or a life partner or  best friends or boss. Like attracts like, and so choose your friends or company wisely; if you want to achieve some thing in life.

But, to some to get the self belief and conviction is from family members and to some its God and from life itself. Everyone knows that, behind every successful man there is a woman. Women have been source of inspiration for men, for centuries. They come in all form like as mother, as wife, as sister, or a friends or a good teacher.

So, who you keep with you, to achieve your dream ?

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Note : this was first published on nepaliadvocate.com February 5, 2013

Root reason of Mahabharat

Mahabharat is a story of a royal family in Hastinapur [ India ] where you can see inferiority complex, ego, revenge, rivalry, conspiracy and so on; which is ultimately bound to collide with bigger battle one day or the other.

Inferiority complex : Dhritarashtra, who was born blind. With some exception, its been observed that, any kind of physical disability or other disorders [mental] leads one to feel inferior in front of others who are physically able. But, what has power to pull my attention in all this inferiority complex is, even if, he was born in a royal family; and not just a royal member but to a king. A would be heir to Hastinapur,  which was one of the biggest state in Bharat barsha at that time, as said in the story; his inferiority complex never subsidised. When he lost his crown to his younger brother Pandu to rule Hastinapur the grudge, hatred, anger and revenge took place in his mind and then onward he became so bitter that all his life was to fight for the crown, by hook or crook. So its clear that only  after losing the crown to his younger brother, he started cultivating severe inferiority complex.

But what is more interesting to pay attention in all his inferiority complex is, Pandu never did anything conscious or unconsciously to make him feel inferior or later on Pandava brothers almost never did anything to fuel to that thought of Duryodhan, but strange  as it may sound, it never doused by itself from the heart of those who cultivated it.

Dhritarashtra at one point speaks his mind, “I therefore always suffered from fear, anxiety, anger and jealousy.”

Sakuni was another reason why that inferiority complex never subsidised. Because he himself was the victim of inferiority complex. His side of story have power to intrigue me more than his brother-in-law’s reason to cultivate it. He felt humiliated just because Bhishma asked his elder sister’s hand to marry with Dhritrashtra, a blind person. How dare he to ask her sisters’ hand to marry a blind person ? Therefore he wanted to take revenge on the state of Bhisma governed. Remember, Ghandhari accepted the offer to save  her father and brother from the potential disgrace or to avoid the possible future attack on their state. So, she accepted the proposal to marry with Dhritrashtra, without carrying much grudge on anyone.

Once Ghandhari was married to the Dhritarashtra Sakuni also came to stay in Hastinapur. Even though he himself was the heir to one of the state at that time, but, he left it all to his son’s care. All he did is to constantly fueling fire in the  heart and mind of Dhristrand, that he has been the victim of injustice from the political logic of Bidur, a wise man of that time. His reasoning was that,  a blind man needs to be protected from others so, how can a state expect from its rulers, if the ruler cannot give them the sense of protection at times of need ?  This single reasoning became the fact for him not to be the king of hastinapur, despite the tradition that the oldest son would inherit the state.

And as if he staying and fueling the mind of his brother-in-law was not sufficient for Sakuni. Once, they have their son Duryodhana, he started muddying his mind also from very young age, with his dark vision and intention. He started plotting so many conspiracy for the Pandavas one after another purely to dethrone them from the power.

Here I would like to mention one more thing that stands so tall in the story, inferiority complex got carried away with the second generation also by the one who was suffering from all this. Dhritrashtra a blind man, who was suffering from severe inferiority complex after losing his crown to his brother, due to his physical disability it, and the Sakuni who saw opportunity of fulfilling  his dream merely used him as a tool to get what he wanted to do in his life, take revenge with  Bhishma or to the state of Hastinapur.

Duryodhan was also suffering from the same kind of inferiority complex, which his father was suffering. If Pandu could see and rule the state then his sons were wiser, super talented, and braver than   Duryodhan and Dushason or for that matter whole of Kauravas, who were in the side of Duryodhan. Their clean image, their brilliance and intelligence, their talent and the story of their bravery was also the reasons which kept fueling the mind of   people who were suffering from inferiority complex. What we can't ignore here is, the Pandava brother never did anything intentionally to show their superiority or hit their fragile self esteem. It was just inbuilt qualities of them that became a stark difference between Pandava and Kaurava. One did not needed to do anything, yet it became the core reason behind the big fight.

Ego : There are some people who never try to spoil our mind saying  that ego, is the root reason of the fall of greatest people on earth, ego in fact, push people to the new height. Indeed its the fragile self esteem or inferiority complex combined with so called dream like the dream of Dhritrashtra or Duryodhan to be the king of Hastinapur. I remember a line from Bruce Lee, “Defeat is a state of mind; no one is ever defeated until defeat has been accepted as a reality. The spirit Bruce Lee puts in his statement have is a lot difference than the attitude shown by father /son in the story of Mahabharata. We see almost the same kind of mentality in the Dhritarashtra and Duryodhana, but; there was no option for them to go in another area but fight for the lost crown by any means possible. If we get things like that, through open competition, but that too was not acceptable to them. So, they started teaming up Sakuni, the mastermind of evil thought, whose brain was so fertile when it comes to dark plans to get materialized. But let me repeat it ego is not the problem but the fragile self esteem combined with defeated mentality.

Revenge :  Taking revenge on someone is showing the seed of revenge, Dronarcharya kept the grudge against the Drupad, his childhood friend for failing to remember and then fulfill the childish conversation, which they had of sharing the kingdom with Dronacharya. To douse his insult but he forgot that similar revenge would be in the mind of king Draupa. Insult bleeds hate, anger and jealousy. Dronacharya spend his time and energy training his students to make them able to defeat King Drupad, who in turn sought the assistance of holly person to take revenge on Dronacharya . All such revenge and the counter revenge culminated into a big battle that happened in the name of Mahabharat. Again this was the reason of low self-esteem carried out by the royal guru Dronacharya. He used to preach his students not to carry ego but on the other hand he was the one who have been living with one mission in his life to take revenge with another.

The single physical disability of Dhritrashtra combined with his blindness of mental, ethical, spiritual is the root reason of a big fight we know in the name of Mahabharat.

Equal right issue is not a political issue

Is this injustice to women or they are not capable ? a Facebook status asked this question. This was in regard to women winning just 10 seats in constitutional assembly’s election that was held in November 19, 2013.  

My reaction to this was different. As for me equal gender issue is not political or judicial issue, therefore we should not seek its answer in politics. I don't see women being invited in any talk shows for open debate ? Is that political issue ? This is the reality of our society which indicates the mentality of our society as a whole. No wonder if we can see almost all aspect of our life in form of lack of presence of women in power positions. Therefore, I  think this is not the injustice to women nor we are incapable than men.

I disagree with those who try to mix the gender equality rights with issue like equal treatment as a human being, such as color, caste, creed, disabled, and other minorities. Talk of gender equality has nothing to do with equal right issue as human being.  We must be very clear on this issues first, before we sit on the table for open and hot discussion for gender equality.

“Male and female should have an equal participation on constitution forming body. There are some delicate issues - males can't understand about women and women can't understand about men....” Anand Nepal respond to my post on own status.  I totally agree  with his reasoning as that is not even the matter of disagreement. I am only saying this is not political issue.

Even though it may sound same to some, talk of gender equality and equal rights issue are not the same. Because both gender has color, caste, creed, disabled, many other minorities issues to sort out in-between, around the world; which makes it a whole lot of different issue in so many ways.

However, every time I read a piece of article on women's right or a talk show on Nepali TV, I get a view that first there are men and then there are women, disables, minorities and indigenous right. Its not men who keep rattling this like parrot without even giving it much thought, that they are their on the national media to give voice to those who are confused about this subject but, what is even more frustrating is, its the women's right activists who are invited on TV do not know the difference between these core thoughts, which sounds almost the same to them. Women rights activist who came on TV seem to be saying this ‘women, disabled, minorities and indigenous’ when they are talking about the women's right issue. If we have  people with confused understanding on such topic on the TV screens or on the pages of national dailies, who do not have clarity in thinking about the subject matter they are talking about then; who will give the clarity in thinking to the confused mass on this very controversial subject ?

When equal rights vocalist like me, challenge the norms men carry, “we are superior sex” attitude they think this is the sign of sickness. In my recent facebook status when I  posted : I am not complaining if the literacy rate in Nepal is 51.4% women against 72.2% literate men. What I complain is that we can't even see 5% of women's presence in media, when they try to find some solutions that persist in our day to day life. As if men of my society have all the answers. This gender brassiness is not political issue, this is mentality of men of our society.

I can say without hesitation that men in media are afraid to invite brilliant and intelligent women in open discussions on national television channels. They think it's beneath their dignity, if women are smarter than them when the the whole country finds logic in a question they raise. That's why tour media maintains a thundering silence on gender equality issue. Some shamelessly blame politicians for this saying this is political issue.

I got a very sharp comments on this, saying this is just a ranting from a woman and nothing more than empty vessel making noises. The comment was posted by Aavas Karma a staff of Indian Embassy, who works in literary and cultural section.  His comment is just another indication of how educated men in our society think and then react about  gender equality issue. When he got sharper opinion from me he wished me “get well soon”. Then I replied him, “This is what is more sickening than anything, when men think we are sick when we talk about equal right issue.”

Next day he deleted all his comments as well as delisted me from his friends circle.

As a woman who is a hardcore feminist with sharp mind, I will not feel comfortable to say that we are superior sex. Even as an equal right vocalist, I say we are equal gender and there should not be sexual biases in this discussion. Men should not have any reservation accepting this and if any we still get struck on this reservation then we are not even focusing on equal gender right. The talk will then derail from down the path.

If I say I am superior than the other sex, it only displays my own inferiority in front of the other sex and the own who is claiming it covering that insecurities and inferiority in different facade; instead of simplifying it. No doubt, there will be more discussion rather that focusing on the real point, which is gender equality.  

Average men suffer from low self confidence and their insecurities soar high when they have to give credit to women for what they deserve for they being deserving candidates. Some believe man's ego is their real ID, but; we need to separate the ego of man and gender equality issue. This topic should not clash with talk of ego, because this is not who is better or who is smarter. This is our ability to accept both sex importance in our society which we can’t deny in any way and must get equal right in all aspect of life, rather than one trying to get bigger pie from it.

Some men reason that, “Women empowerment - should come from within.” and I totally agree with this thinking. But first our society which is very much inspired by religious books  have brainwashed girls/woman in such a way that they have lost all the confidence to lead life independently or even face the brute men. However, I am forced to think at times when I see those women; must we act like customized computer and not get our own thinking on this matter ? When are we going to take needed step to tell men that we are different in so many ways yet equal gender, none of us are better or smarter than another sex.

Men and women are a whole lot of different in terms of physical structure as well as they are differently wired in their brain also. Men are more stronger physically and women are better at multitasking but this does make one superior or other inferior. Both comes with different sets of pros and cons. Different way of thinking does not make one superior and another inferior, its just the different opinion. Then the question is why men think they are superior than women ? Why men take it too personally and keep telling women are weaker sex ? Physical strength has nothing to do with mental strength and who needs in today time to carry loads on their shoulder to win the prize for being a superior sex ?

Why men keep trying to seek their own identity in being mere security blanket for women or the free ticket to meal ? Talk of gender equality do not challenge this norms. Is being financial provider and protector puts them in superior position ? Does this gives them right to make rule for women in their life and suddenly it becomes societal rule bar like 'Laxman Rekha' ? What I don't understand is, talking about gender equality do not intend to ignore their importance in our life. We just need to find more harmony in this society for better life and for that we have to find our importance even if we have to face some people who carry stone age mentality who keep denying the open debate on this matter.

Troubled Souls

Long time back, I have read a story in our school book, why can't we see Yamraj [the death God]. The story goes like this; in earlier days humans could see Yamraj, the god of death. One day a man caught him up, and then locked him in a dark room, when he came to take him away, after his time finished on earth. Since then, there was only birth but no death. Needless to tell, after that old, sick and ailing people were the one who suffered most. People aged but no one died. Then one day, one god came and rescued the Yamraj and from that moment on; he started taking people from earth, without we, ever being able to see him.

In Hindu religion, its believed that, when we die Yamraj or his assistants will come down on earth to take us to the ‘yamlok’, before he decides where we go, heaven or hell. Lets not focus here, what is my personal believe in this subject matter, at least for the moment. This is what I heard and this how, I grew up hearing and listening all the time in our mythology stories; as all the story spinning around it, including in comedies shows, he came to take dead people with him.

What the above story says and what the next true story says, which I read recently has very vast difference in its nature. No wonder, I am also trying to understand what is the meaning, we can derive after reading this story. Who come down on earth to fetch away people after their death ? This particular story, really hammered my conscience, and preconceived notion about it, when I the story from a granddaughter about her own grandfather. This story is indeed told, from the real life experience of the dead mans maid named White, which she later on shared it with her granddaughter [ the writer of the story].

John Chester Craven was a railway Engineer of L. B & S. C Railways, who lived his life in Yorkshire, England. The writer of the story describes her grandfather, as the one who was devoid of sentiments, whose god was money and railroads,  he had no interest at all outside of that. She also described him as someone, who had cyclonic rage; who possessed uncontrollable temper and he was a tyrant too. She was very much emotionally detached from her fathers family, as he died when she was very young. No wonder, if she finds her grandmother too very cold and she described her; the one who was as unemotional and unsmiling woman, she had ever seen in her life. After the death of her father, she was raised by her mother.

M. C. Maude’s grandfather took an unbelievably long time in dying. White, the maid who attend Mr. Craven, when he was on deathbed; narrated the whole story to young girl [ she was seventeen then], “listen, miss Maude, your grandpapa was fetched away by that poor boy [Alfred] he mishandled so shamefully years ago. Its a gospel truth and Mr. william came along to be company for his brother, why he should mix himself up it beats me.” White, continues further three months before the death every day, at around eight o’clock at night, Mr. Craven felt, his sons were waiting outside his door to fetch him away.

The day he died around one in the morning, the three ladies and a maid who were there to look after him, heard ‘Hallo !’ from outside. At first, they tried to dismiss it, saying its a cat or a drunkard, but then again same sound came and then one more lauder and clear call to make it valid, that its not just the buzz in the ear but its more that that.

At that point Mrs. Craven sent White, her personal maid, as she related the story to the granddaughter, who was taking care of Mr craven; to see what's there under the dressing room window, which is making that kind of disturbing sound. When she looked out of the window, to her horror and surprise; she finds that the small boy with a skipping rope accompanied by his brother William [ father of the writer of ‘To fetch him away’ ghost story] who died when she was very young. It seems that the maid had seen William before he died but she was not working for this family when the young boy was beaten mercilessly by his own father.

Its necessary for me to mention here at this moment that, the young boy Alex had died on the sixth day after he ran away from his home, because he was brutally and mercilessly beaten by his father [ Mr. Craven] with a rope, and it seems that a skipping rope at the tender age of ten, when he by mistake; tore one of the most valuable drawing of his father. His second son William died at the age of 35.

The maid concludes her narration to the writer, “miss Maude Mr. Alfred and Mr. William fetched their father away, I saw them as clearly as I see you. I don't know, why they were allowed to come back and fetch Master, when he found such comfort in the twenty third psalm and have regretted enough for being the slave driver with the railwaymen.”

The above story narration by the maid to the granddaughter of the man, she took care for so many years, tells us the different side of the story, about our age old believe or lets say the way we are conditioned to believe, what we normally believe, about the life after death.

I personally would not have believed this story, If its was not the story of her own family member; which can be seen in a book by M. L Chauhan under the title ‘to fetch him away’. I found Maude M. C. ffoulkes, uninteresting and in her own words ‘dreamer of the dreams’ or at times in other of her story, ‘her mom wondering looking up in the sky and murmuring, why she have such child. In her other ghost story, she forgot that it, is a true story, she let her imagination fly high and she is very much interested in ghost and supernatural subject. Let me tell you here clearly, ghost may be invisible but its invisibility does not make it fall on the ‘supernatural’ subject.

Existence of hell is something, all the religion belief and its mention in Hindu books or many other religious book with such explanation that no one can argue, unless one choose not to open the true eyes, to understand; what all had been written in this subject matter. See What is in the Ved by Dr. Swami Prapannacharya [p. 256].

I could not help notice in this story, one more thing, the young boy’s soul was troubled even after his death and his father’s soul was troubled for long time before his death for what he did to his young boy, which caused his death. The writer was troubled by her fathers family's side and what to say about the maid, who had to look after the most dominating man with cyclonic rage, who was eluded by death, long before the death actually came to take him.

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Note : Maude M. C. ffoulkes is an English writer and a novelist, her  ghost stories can be seen in ‘true ghost story my M. L. Chauhan.

This post has already been published in nepaliadvocate.com

Conversation with Death God

When Mamta's husband returned from Delhi, he complained Delhi is such a polluted city [air pollution]. And I thought all those fairness cream company who do not hesitate to brag giving a fair complexion to dusky brown Indians are actually committed to convert dusky brown Indians to white like native British or Americans within next 10 years.

Corporate house do make a huge bucks fooling us like anything. But lately, fairness cream and a man who is coming in my distant and vague parts of mind is what giving my head spin like anything. A man who looks bit worked on computer’s graphic image have been dancing in my mind and I am trying to understand who is this middle age man with so much energy to keep nagging me with his gleeful look and funny dance.

He bends his legs and dances like the men who dance in our folk dance. Ever since I was child I am a huge fan of folk dance for it being so fast in its move and steps as well as chirpy mood boosting songs, unlike other slow dance move.  What is demanding my attention in his dance steps is, that he has not only been holding a paper all this time  but he is also making efforts to show it to the whole audience.

Seeing the paper from the distance was not helping me to understand what is in that paper. so I have to request him to give it to me, so that I can read it and then figure it out what is written in that paper.

It was a contract paper which he had signed with a rich fairness cream company to supply him lifelong stock, so that; he will look fairer and perhaps look less menacing to those who he will visit next to end life. No ! No ! he is not a doctor but, this document says he is a Hindu death god, our very own Yamraj.

Strange as it may sound but, it made me wonder, why Yamraj has to carry a document that promises him a lifelong supply of fairness cream ? What could be the reason he needs this ? To quench my curiosity I asked him about it.

Despite he being death god, I found him very friendly and candid in his conversation to talk  openly about why he needed to carry with and show it to some selected ones. I came to know that he has heard about the book China Harayeko Manche by Hari Bansha Acharya. After reading it, he seemed bit worried about the revolution the famous comedian wanted to do, to change the god/goddess  or replace them with immediate effect for they treating us like slave. He was not worried about the replacement part but worried more that the famous actor/comedian have demanded his immediate death. So, he got this idea to visit a big fairness cream company and then ask for lifelong supply. He was honest when he admitted threatening the company CEO, “if you do not agree to supply me what I ask for, then be ready to die soon.”

“And they agreed to give you what you asked for ?” I asked him with a quizzy look in my eyes and his brutally honest have power to bring smile on my face. I have to admit it too, his candid manner which he showed in replying my answer just amused me. I asked him again, “but then why it matters to carry this contract paper ? you will still be the death god; black or white, tall or short, handsome or ugly, young or old ?” He was very fast in his response, “Sunita, I know what you mean and also the depth hidden in that question but who will convince the person who wants to change God and demands my immediate death ?” he counter questioned me in his answer and he was wearing very thoughtful look in his eyes when he looked straight in my eyes to see whether I understood him or not. He added further, “Don't get me wrong Sunita, I am not hungry to retain this job of death god but the truth is anyone who replace me, will still do the same work and people still die after birth. Even if they have been loved by people around them. So, whats wrong if I be that person again with slight changes ? But yes this time I will be fairer and younger than before.”

He seemed to be in his chatty mood and his logic have power to grip me  in his talk, so he continued further, “you know what worries me Sunita, if I look fairer or younger, may be women will not hesitate to go with me because of my look. And the problem is,I won't have time to explain them I am not the dream man I am the GOD of death.” “Why don't you explain them ?” I wanted to know.

“My job is to take life, not to explain them why do they die” he looked straight into my eyes to see I have got his point when he said that line. “You don't explain them, then who will explain it to the dying person why they are dying ?”

“You people on earth do that,” he said in very somber tone and then further went on “and find the meaning of life and death. Its not upto us to explain the dying person, why do they die. Death is reality and life is not an eternity and it is inevitable after birth. I know this much.” and then he looked straight in my eyes to see whether I absorbed his pearl of wisdom or not.

After this much talk, he felt comfortable chatting with me and showed me the contract paper with another big corporate house for lifelong supply of wrinkle free cream which will keep him look younger than before. After seeing that paper I asked him, “why do you need it ? why you have to look better than before and younger than ever ?”

“Why not ?” was his counter question again. Then he explained that Haribansha has asked for young and clean image person in the list of god/goddess and even if I am a king of death I am still the god. Therefore, I have to look younger and fairer to meet his search for ‘young and clean image’ god.”

He makes sense as much as Haribansha when he gives us his best comic show, which has power to tickle our funny bones. Just then I woke up from my daytime sleep and shook my head. My god this happens when I read the book by comedian and try to make sense of his thought that has no logic, rationality and sanity. But, I still have to admit it, chatting with yamraj or reading Harhibansha’s book, both equally interesting and brain hammering. As I have been written earlier, there in his book is more than nonsense talk and in every death there is reason to make place for newcomers. Death is reality of life as his new wife tells him and not a terror which the comedian writer believes. Reality is we have to learn to accept it instead of demanding replacement of God/Goddess as there are some power like god which cannot be replaced with another face.

This is illegal

 People always go after the temptation, forbidden fruit, or sins; which at times some intellects of society have termed illegal. Does people feel challenged with the word illegal and then go for it ? Is this human nature to go after the things that has been banned ? or there is more to it, when they go after the illegal things. Is this fun to break the concept of illegal ? Why people go after the things that was barred ? I think, there is more to it, than it actually seems when we think they are going after the forbidden zone. I don't think, fun is the reason behind it. Why I think so ? Lets see some incidents of our society to find answers.

Aborting a female fetus : to know a sex of fetus prior to the birth of a child has been made illegal in India because of misuse of science and technology. However, sex determination test during the first three months of pregnancy are widely practiced in length and breadth of India. But, some states in UP are more infamous going only for a boy child and then terminating the fetus of a girl child; long before they are born.

At first the sex determination test looks very human like curiosity. Every new parents would like to know the sex of a child, so that, they can prepare accordingly before the newborn arrives. However, substantial number of Indian parents are doing so, just to know the sex of a child so that they can terminate the female fetus, after knowing the sex of unborn child. It is a pure misuse of technology of medical science and then this gift of science  also sounds like a curse to female gender. Strange, why these people totally ignore the fact that they need women to bear a child and then give continuity to the life.

The real problem is not the science and technology which help us know the truth before the birth of a child nor the doctors who carry out this pregnancy termination act illegally, its just another job and they need people who give them their bread and butter. The real problem is mentality that do not hesitate to kill female fetus long before a child is born. And sometimes we watch on TV crime story [Indian] when they bury a month old [girl child] alive, so that they will have a boy next time. The one who were involved in this was father of a child, and her two grandmothers and the main person who ordered them to do this was another lady, a Tantrik. In India they are worshiped like a god and their order are taken like the word of God.

Should this surprise you now, In India there are only 914 women per 1000 men and its raising a whole lot of different problems in Indian society, just like in China where, for every 118 men there are only 100 women.

Rebirth : In another incident, I watched a story of a seven year old boy, who was killed as an adult exactly seven years ago in his previous life. He was constantly haunted in his dreams and no visit to any psychologists seem to be helping to find answers to his nightmare. Then one word in his dream - a name of a city - where he used to live before his death and rebirth; took him to another small town in India. It was the boy’s nightmares which forced his parents to find the answer. It  then, became a reason to find his killer of previous life. Once he was in town, almost immediately, he found his family members and relatives of his previous life then every missing piece started linking with each other.

Until now no one knew the reason of his death; but, after hearing the boy’s story the previous life’s family members wanted to punish the killer, who took a young mans life. He was never charged for anything wrong. when they went to court the judge rejected it outright, saying court do not believe in previous life. Court told them it  can't proceed the case where the child was claiming he was killed.

It can be understood why judge rejected this case, as there will be more illogical cases court  could be facing, if it indulges one such case. And there are no dearth of people, who will twist the case to such extent to make it win, as they see it and believe it.

Remember this is India and this is the Hindu nation which believes in rebirth and karma more than any other country. This is the country which not only developed this concept of  rebirth but shares such stories to the whole world. This is what differentiate Hindu religion from other religion.

At the end, the boy and his new and old family members along with the lawyer was able to produce sufficient proofs by disclosed the truth of his death which no one knew until then, found the document where he kept all the status about his loan - the reason - he was killed to the court. The feared man made some mistakes due to the rumors of his arrival in the city and then it became easier for the lawyer and the boys previous life family members to act and punish him after seven years.

Seven years gap in between justice and punishment is not much important thing here unless and until the rebirth of a boy, who was haunted in his dreams, which lead him to the unknown city in India just to find some answers that dream raised in his young mind.

Corruption is a social evil, offence and considered illegal in every civilized society but we keep reading in newspaper almost daily that so and so people in power is convicted of corruption and then it takes an endless time to punish the man who involved in the game of corruption. Smaller the position smaller corruption and bigger the position and project bigger the amount of corruption. Some corruptions, like corruption in medial sector or in pharmaceutical line that chains with many hospitals, affects the lives of  millions of  people at a time yet not considered as horrendous as genocide when they are prosecuted. Well educated people and white color corruption is worse than the blue color corruption or crimes yet it keeps going on and on and on to maintaining the status in society. Nabbing the powerful of the society is as challenging as red alert criminals. Question is, Who should punish them ?

I even have heard a smart lawyer once saying, taking a life is illegal. Does that mean its OK to take a life and not even feel guilty about it ? Can he be allowed to walk free on road to take one more life ? Despite such insane reasoning, judicial system do consist of people, who have clarity in conscience compared to the normal people whose conscience seem to be on murky side. Besides, it falls on responsible, sensible and intellects of our society to think over such issues and then work on this line to bring harmony in our society. But the bigger question is do we need court to tell us what is legal or what is illegal ? Has that reduced our problems squarely ? I think this is the time we should address such issues a whole lot differently. Lets talk about clarity of conscience to aware our mass.