Some time ago on my Facebook there was a post by a fellow friend, that a woman in Canada was to sue a sex toy company, because the toy she used was so hard and harsh making the whole affair so painful. I could not help but think after reading the post, this complaint would change the whole concept of rape and the lawyers are going to use it against women in future for real rape charges.
Here is another, even more shocking news, how women use rape for their own benefit and later back off from the complaint only they find it that now after the DNA test such cases may fall against them only. This news was published in Kathmandu Post on June 12, 2012.
An octogenarian of Pathari VDC-8 in Morang, who was kicked out of society on a rape charge four years ago has been rehabilitated in his village after he is proved innocent.
Rupnarayan Ghimire, now 84, was accused of raping speech-impaired Chandra Kumari Bhattarai. After the incident, Bhattarai lodged a complaint against Rupnarayan in the District court on September 6, 2009.
However, based on a report of a DNA test of Rupnarayan and a baby born to Bhattarai, the court ruled that Rupnarayan was innocent.
“Not only God, court also saw the truth. I had been living with mental and physical pain for the past four years. But now I am proved innocent and will live the rest of my life with a sense of independence in the society” said Rupnarayan in a program held to felicitate him at Janata Higher Secondary School in Aaitabare on Saturday.
He was living in a rented room at Pathari ever since he was accused of raping Bhattarai.
Meanwhile, Bhattarai said in a written statement that she lodged the complaint against Rupnarayan under the pressure of her relatives. The relatives, who encourages Bhattarai to charge Rupnarayan, however, fled the village after the courts verdict.
Rupnarayan son, Krishna Prasad has demanded compensation and action against the guilty.
Of course, the news itself is very incomplete in itself and the postcard kind of news. Something that tells me, do not trust news in Nepal. The main culprit here seems to be the relatives of the Bhattarai, but there is no such mention of the person involved in this case not even their name, even the speech-impaired; the so called rape victim, seem to have involved in the malpractice here, due to some greed factor, which is not clearly mentioned in the news. It seems to me, she have changed the opinion, only when the DNA report came out. Its so obvious that her relatives and she herself was so unaware of the DNA test. What could be worst, that DNA report came in light after four years only.
There is no doubt that, after reading the news, the victim here is the eighty year old man, who not only had to go through the humiliation but also has to leave his own house and society at that tender age and the age of a woman involved here, who could give birth to a child is not even mentioned. Just because she is speech-impaired does not mean that she should not be punished for her involvement in this case. Rape is very sensitive issue but this kind of news really hammers us to think it otherwise.
It sure does not surprise me then, why some lawyers doubt the intention of the rape victims after the rape charges. Statistic reveal that, about seventy percent of rape cases, it happens when the rapist know the victim already and and of that seventy percent the forty percent of the involved are from the close relatives of the victim.
There may be some truth in the logic that it may be sex at first as some lawyers argue in rape cases, and when the situation did not turn out as per her wish or demand then, they say its rape. You know what, the tears shed by women has so much power to melt the heart of man and it works everywhere, even when its the stone hearted men.
But this is where women lose the real case and trust too. And that never ending sympathy which she never gets tired of seeking, instead of fighting her fight; is what reduce her weight forever.